looks can be deceiving

hey its been a long time tat i hv blogged, and my friends whom i hv introduced to the world of blogging is behind me asking " r u not bliogging these days, r u nt even browsing these days??????" a hell lot of questions. nw i decided i shuld write smething on this neglected blog atleast nw whn all hv started asking me?

but wat to write? am nt getting any topics.

i think i will write abt 1 of the cases that i was seeing in our clinic, a child of 5yrs with stutering

he is a kid who is very introvert, shy and in the first 3 sessions i tried a lot to open his mouth, so tat i can hear smething tat he says. and the very sad part is tat my communication is also limited due to my pathetic knowledge and fluency in Kannada..

but from the initial sessions itself i culd find tat he likes to talk abt his friends, B and DS. both his friends have weired names, frm him to comprehend their names was also difficult for me. later i staretd to talk abt his friends, i wonder hw could he understand my speech in kannada. but the most important part is tat "he is a kid" he doesnt presuppose ur skills nor does he act as if he understood everythng whn in actuality he didnt. this i thought was the most beautiful part of kids. if u cn understand them its very easy to communicate with them, even whn ur language is a barrier. i started my therapy with him and he was such a sweet kid tat he listens to watever i say. he is nt from a good economic background and i feel tat was one of the reasons tat he was ready to follow watever i told him. i started my usual approach "to act as if i am also a kid of his age", arguing with him for simple things, competing with him in running races and raising simple simple reasons for how i won the race and so on.

the fact is tat nw am nt very concerned abt hw i look or hw i speak while taking therapy. towards the last sessions i tuk him to my friends and i am happy tat atleast he was answering to their queries not in complex sentences but in simple words and sentences.

and my friends, were like, the child has started speaking like me and they also commented abt hw dopy my looks were.

if it was 1/2 years back i wuld really be pondering abt, wat they told, but nw am not. the very reason behind tat is the change tat i had adopted knowingly/unknowingly in my therapy style with kids. before i used to think a lot abt "if i speak like this hw will others feel, if i make my face like this what will the ones who c me thnk abt me etc" and i used to limit myself a lot cogitating abt the fragile "wall of looks". but i dnt knw hw, but all those thoughts went away, am nt any more worried abt hw i look / speak while taking therapy for a kid and the result i am free to take therapy and none of my limitations can ever cme between me , a"clinician and those innocent faces sitting infront of me"

and one view tat i have from my limited clinical knowledge is tat be free and friendly to the kid and u will be amazed to knw the sweetest intricacies of their acts , deeds and thoughts...................... it will gv u immense pleasure to knw their world........................ which has no bounds....................